The first appearance in Malaysia was captivating to me. There was so much to be seen and heard with the colorful street markets, the scent of grilling satay in every corner, and the melody of different languages harmonizing into their own beat.

However, between the time I admired temples and gorged on nasi lemak, I too committed a couple of cultural fumbles that taught me that learning about the etiquette of the locals would come in very useful.

Luckily, the trip had started smoothly, thanks tomeet and greet Luton, which made the airport experience stress-free and gave me the headspace to focus on the journey ahead.

The Malaysian state has rich traditions of both the Malay, Chinese, and Indian cultures. Its people are extremely warm and forgiving, and being versed in how to do it with respect and dignity will get you more smiles, easier experiences and even a local tip or treat here and there.

This is what I wished I received earlier when I turned up in flip-flops at a mosque door (yep, I did that).

Do: Be Respectful in greetings

Malaysians are polite and soft-spoken people and the same is reflected in greetings. A straightforward greeting such as hello or hi is sufficient although there are more ways to blow someone away, salam or salam sejahtera with a slight nod.

Meet people older or in a formal situation with a light shake. To Muslims, especially the women, a smile and slight nod is more suitable unless the latter offers a hand.

At one point I attempted to engage an old Malay man in a deep Western-style handshake. He was slightly startled, assented with a nod, and I afterwards discovered that a slight bow and hand-over-heart would have been much more to the point.

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Dont: Finger Pointing

It is a minor but significant one. In Malaysia, it is impolite to use the index finger when pointing. When pointing something, use your finger instead of your whole hand or thumb, or pointing in directions.

When I initially requested directions to a food stand, I would point, and the vendor had to gently push my hand down. Lesson learned. It is the small details that count.

Do: Eat Right Handed

The right hand is used to eat, pass food or give money in traditional places, especially Malay and Indian restaurants. The left hand is regarded as unclean (hygiene), therefore, do not put it in the rice bowl.

I recall how I frantically attempted to use my right hand to scoop rice at a nasi campur stall by the roadside and could not drop anything. One of the local women smiled, gave me a spoon and said, “We understand that tourists do their best, we do not mind.” That single sentence made me feel welcome and inspired to know more.

Dont: Public Display of Affection

Malaysia is broadly conservative and although it is fine to hold hands in most places, it is not so good to kiss or hug in a crowded place and especially couples.

You will not be arrested but you will surely attract glances or even derisive glances, most especially in the countryside or in places of worship. Romance should be kept out of the public domain.

Dont: Wear Modest Clothes in Sacred Places

Going to temples, mosques or shrines? Wrap up your shoulders and knees. Take a scarf or sarong. It is light and easy to carry.

In Langkawi, I approached a mosque wearing shorts, and was politely told to wait outside. I was not offended but only a bit unprepared. The people of the place were polite and I loved the polite correction.

Malaysia made me understand that traveling is not about going to a place but how to be in a place. And although the people are very understanding of tourist gaffes, to take the trouble to learn and adhere to the local etiquette is to show respect and gain it back.

In case of a doubt, look at what people in that country are doing and imitate them. And when you screw up, fess up like I did with that hand shake, the shoes and yes the head-patting moment.

What originally was a fresh start by travelling across Europe has become a blend of anxiety and flashbacks stalking in the corner of Cays’ mind. As the should-be therapeutic holiday turned into a concurrence of nostalgic yet painful experiences from the past, Cay has yet again been driven into his own turmoil.

As each passing city and country, retrospection about past was followed by Judas, his travel companion whom he met not long ago before the trip. Judas was as intriguing as he was vague to Cay as they progressed. He was, at the same time, a companion for the lost partner.

As their travel nearly reached the end, the two succumbed to his darker side of despair and self-destructive nature. Without Judas’ companionship and inhibitive feelings growing for him, Cay might have lost his mind completely, or somehow be led by the mysterious companion to find retribution that he solely had thought he deserved

This novel speaks of life, or of broken individuals. Cay sought a life anew, while Judas followed his own sense of direction in the way of living. As they ventured from one beautiful city to another, would the benefit of staying together outweigh the increasingly strangeness between the two? And could Cay come to terms with his past haunting and become whole again?